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Friends: What I have learned over the years


Soo..since we have become friends, I have had a lot of thoughts going through my head..

Let me start off by saying, I haven't had a close friend in ages and in a way, it was shocking to me to find another person I click with, when after the last friendship ended, and it left me thinking of him for soo many years.

It wasn't until I met Trish**, and we started hanging out after school, that i realized how much we clicked. Also the fact that she helped me let go of him by suggesting I delete my statuses about him..and im not sure i mentioned this to her, but it works!- I am finding that I am thinking about him less..I may be interested and nosy to know what he's up to these days, but not enough to do something about it.

**I also want to add that I love hanging out with her after school, venting to each other and having someone I can share things with and not be judged for it. We really click and it goes to show you never know who you'll click with. And to think, it all started over a venting session in the teacher's lounge about a sucky sub..**

I write this to say that the way I handle friendships has changed...

Here is what I used to do:
1.not communicate how I was feeling and get frustrated in the process
2.make a huge deal if we weren't hanging out or if they were too busy
3.Over think conversations we had and think about what i wanted to say
4.call people or text a lot when they said we were doing something and i didn't hear from them..

And now..
1. I say what Im thinking more- normally by text, but it does come out, even if it makes me a little anxious at first.

2.These days, I get that people are busy and we both have stuff going on outside of work, and I don't feel like we need to be attached at the hip.. That is one reason I mentioned doing lunch and hanging out. In the past, I would of freaked that she didn't want to hang out, but not now..

3.honestly, I may do this a little, but not nearly as much as I used to, and now I can catch myself when I start to do it..so there's that.

4.well, we text a lot and i may blow up her phone when i need to vent etc, and i know she's going to get back to me-maybe that's why I don't feel the need to freak out if I don't hear from her right away..

It's a very short list, but it came into my head and I had to share!

Feel free to tell me your friend stories!

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