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Soo... I may be sapiosexual....

This is a word that I have heard before, and for some reason, my mind keeps going back to it... And since I am sitting here waiting for sub jobs to appear, why not use this as an opportunity to share what is on my mind and distract me at the same time??

The word of the day is Sapiosexual-as if you couldn't tell by the title of the blog lol.... anywho, the meaning of the word being attracted to brains over beauty.. well, after reading that and thinking for ages upon ages about it, I think it's another word that describes a part of me.

So let's see...for many years, I have noticed that my attraction to others isn't so much how they look,although that does happen sometimes, most of the time when I realize I like someone, it has to do with their mind...

Some examples-

1. Former best friend who has a birthday today- he played the cello and was very smart and it was after we hung out for awhile, that i slowly realized I loved being around him and even though he was cute and cuddly, that attraction had more to do with his mind and the conversations we would have and how well he knew me.

2. The one after him- he was a first grade teacher who would help out In the after school program where I worked.  When I fist met him, he was kinda dorky and there was something about him- although I wouldn't realize that for awhile after. He would joke around with some of us and there was something about him that I just liked. Maybe it was because he was as awkward as I was, or dinner what I wanted to be doing...I do remember one day when I realized I liked him because as I was waiting for the kids to show up, I saw him and was picturing him with no clothes on...so there was that.

What they both have in common is that both times I wasn't focused on what they looked like when I realized I liked them...my focus was drawn to some else. It was there intelligence and personality. They both said or did things that made me laugh and with the second one, we wrote a story together via text and that was how we communicated...while doing that, I couldn't wait to see what he was going  to say next and the whole time I was on the edge of my seat.

I am realizing now that since I only knew him in a story, i may of fallen for the one in the story, but  that could of been different if we would of hung out etc... Anyway...I thought he was adorable, in a blues clues way, but it didn't go beyond that. I guess what I am saying is that like anything else, there are layers and you may be attracted to the mind, but you can also find someone attractive and adorable and make the definition fit for you...

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