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Communication is a must!!

So, Ive been doing some thinking and what my last few friendships were lacking was communication.

With friend M-we were really close and while we talked about a lot of stuff, there was still a lot we didn't talk about. One thing we didnt talk about was how my feelings for him were growing and then finally I told him and found out he didn't feel the same way and luckily it didn't change things between us.
He moved for college and we tried to keep the friendship going..and for awhile it worked...then I was tired of not hearing from him and deleted and blocked him and that was it. Looking back, I could of found out what was going on, but then, he could of too. Not once after did he text or call to see why I stopped talking to him...

That was 3 years ago or so and I think of him from time to time and then I don't...So I guess I'm moving on or already did move on without realizing it.

With J- I don't know what cwe had, but I was crushing on him and he knew and I told him how I felt and he replied to the email and said nothing...we would talk on the phone and text and every time I mentioned how I felt or even doing lunch, we never did anything or talked about anything even close to our feelings...well, we used to do a story and communicate through the story, and then one day, it stopped and then he got creepy..

He would go awhile and not text me, and then be all concerned about me and yet never offer anything other than a one word answer to what i asked him and so yeah. It got to the point where I stopped talking to him via text and when he wasn't getting the attention from me, he stopped texting and that was a few years ago since i had heard from him.

I saw him on Facebook one day and blocked him so he wouldn't think of adding me and even though i think about him sometimes, i have no desire to talk to him. 

It has been awhile and looking back, what I'm realizing is that the next friends I have etc, the better the communication and to be able to talk about how we feel and hang out and not hide behind a story.

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